#RelationshipGoals and why its fucking up society

      Relationships nowadays focus too much on bragging about what they could do as a couple, be it on anything. In the last few years, I have been seeing a new trend that up to this day gains so much influence that, in my view, turns society into a one big fucked-up monster. It's really easy to make one of these posts about Relationship Goals or "RG". Your post just needs to have:

a. your long-time girlfriend, boyfriend, fuck buddy, more-than-a-friend, etc
c. anything from really expensive dates, giving of expensive gifts, sitting in the car, going to somewhere luxurious and faraway together, holding hands showing a high-end watch (Cartier, Timex, or Rolex), couple poloshirts (Lacoste, etc) , meeting the parents at a metro restaurant, and practically anything that involves the showing off of money and the "healthy" state of relationship.

Simply put, your relationship and the post just needs to be picturesque.

My only issue here is that most couples think about how to please society and themselves, and it's not really helping. If you think about it, you're the one who's making so much effort just so your relationship seems to be kind of perfect, and you want that perfection to show and be projected to the world. Relationships are a private matter, last time I checked. (Unless I was born in the wrong century.. or worse, planet.) Well, a possible rebuttal of this is "We're just sharing our happiness, why the fuck would you care?" Don't get me wrong, folks. Sharing is loving. BUT THE SAD THING IS THAT PEOPLE LIVE UP TO THE EXPECTATIONS OF A #RELATIONSHIPGOAL, AND NOT THINK AND APPRECIATE WHAT'S IN IT FOR THEM IN THE PRESENT.

 It creates this kind of misconception that relationships are perfect and smooth-sailing and picturesque!

Perhaps you may wonder, This person doesn't have any special someone, that's why this person's ranting about it.  

Well, I do have a special someone, and sad to say he's infected by this disease. (Probably why I started ranting about this in the first place.) Here's how I knew he got the ax:

Lunch 
Guy: Olive and Gelo (our friends) is soooo legal. You know what? Both of their families had dinner just to discuss Olive and Gelo's plans for Olive's debut. (See the context? Debut = 18 y/o)
Girl: When's her debut?
Guy: She won't have a formal affair. Just a trip to the US with Gelo. She didn't want anything else, just that. Both of their families had dinner just to talk about that... Can you imagine?
Girl: Wow..Yeah, I can.
Guy: Awesome, right? One heck of an RG. Wish we could do it, but we have no money, and we're not legal.
Girl: We'll have our own time. Let's just do good in our studies.
Guy: .....
Girl: All right. What do you want to do? Have a date? Travel to Canada? Roadtrip? We'll do all that by the time we have our jobs. Don't worry babe.
Guy: Can't we do those things right now?

Aand there you have it, people!
A perfect example.
I don't have anything against couples who share their happiness, might as well to reiterate.
In my view, it really just creates this kind of utopian thinking that relationships have to be fun and up and about just for it to work.

And with the advent of technology, more and more teenagers, including children, are becoming aware that this concept (#RelationshipGoals) exist, and they strive to embody the very concept.

 Furthermore, a typical RG post usually involves a load lot of money. And anything expensive, if I may add. It really fucks up society. It tends to impose on people that the more money a couple has, the more likely their relationship is admirable. Well, that's how I view it. This is a free country.

Again, I really dont have anyting about couples sharing their happiness. I think what it needs is moderation. And critical thinking. 

We, the young adults of today, should think about how we situate ourselves in response to the rising utopian beliefs, like the #RG.

My Generation: A Rant

  Why does every teenager nowadays think that it's cool to get pregnant at such a young age? Well let me tell you, miss, that you're supposed to be studying and doing well in class, not fucking at getting a baby. I know it's not in my place to say these things but I really can't help it. The worst thing about this issue is that they're proud. I don't know, maybe it's right, maybe it's wrong, but I really don't think that a 17-year old shouldn't be wearing maternity dresses. It makes me think my generation is one big joke.

 And there's the issue of weight. Shit. I don't even know where to start. All my friends are suddenly going in gym AND I SEE NOTHING WRONG WITH THEIR BODIES. They're not obese or anything, it just shows that they're insecure by watching their weight. Don't get me wrong, I'm not fat either, but the thought that they lose weight just because they want society to accept and praise them makes me gag. Makes me barf. Makes me everything-that's-nasty. I have nothing against gym-goers, people. I just think that it's useless losing weight when you have nothing to lose.

 Lately, I've been a judgmental person, but it's really difficult to restrain from judging because they (the people) give you a lot of  reason to. For example, a group of friends talk noisily in a public utility vehicle and so it gives me the impression that these bitches have no breeding. I'm like that.

 Anyway, so I just had to let it out.
 But still, I can't really help to be ashamed of what has become of the late 90's kids.

a poem about confusion

i am
a puddle of self-doubt
a puzzle that never fits
an orgasm never reached

i am
a glass half full
a chance never reached
a half dead soul

i am
a lyric never finished
a hand never touched
a word never said

i am 
a soul with no mate
a chest with no treasure
a star with no light

i am 
a cancelled flight
spoiled food
a 9.5/10

i am
a machine beyond repair
a whirlwind that never stops
another broken promise

Understand

harsh realities

common lies

a lover's strife

i can understand

a rise of cold temper

misunderstandings to understand

a mother's yell

i try to understand

sudden loneliness

forced chores

heavy responsibilities

why does nobody

understand me

I want to go on an adventure with you

I want to go on an adventure with you
I don't care where it leads to,
Be it on a plane, a car, or anything really
As long as it can take two

We don't need to plan it -
Somebody just needs to say it - and it would happen!
No need to scared or anything really,
As long as it is us two, anything could go so freely, smoothly

J. 412 by Emily Dickinson

I read my sentence — steadily —
Reviewed it with my eyes,
To see that I made no mistake
In its extremest clause —
The Date, and manner, of the shame —
And then the Pious Form
That "God have mercy" on the Soul
The Jury voted Him —
I made my soul familiar — with her extremity —
That at the last, it should not be a novel Agony —
But she, and Death, acquainted —
Meet tranquilly, as friends —
Salute, and pass, without a Hint —
And there, the Matter ends —

Euthanasia: A Calculated Murder

By: Khighm Acuña, Faith Aguilar, Dominique Calañas

             Nobody wants their lives cut short. Although, if suffering and terrible pain suddenly comes into your life – causing misery and weakness, would you resolve to fast death? Would you resolve to Euthanasia? Life should be free of pain, but pain is one of the inevitable things we humans experience. There is some truth to this statement, however, any terminally ill patient should not resolve to Euthanasia for it disobeys the Church’s teachings, degrades human dignity, and leads to the wrong belief about death.

            Some Christians support Euthanasia. They argue that God is love, that Christianity is love and compassion. For example, keeping someone in pain and suffering is not loving, it is evil. Euthanasia can be the most loving action, and the best way of putting agape love into practice. Certainly, one cannot deny that Euthanasia relieves pain on a patient, but clearly this choice that is being put in our path is contrary to one of the Church’s teachings – that it is wrong to take away God’s sacred gift of human life. As the fifth commandment implies, one must not kill. As a matter of fact, on May 5, 1980, The Sacred Congregation for the Doctrine of Faith stated on the official Declaration on Euthanasia that it is a “violation of the divine law, an offense against the dignity of a human person, a crime against life, and an attack on humanity.” Although mercy killing has the capacity to relieve pain on the patient, resulting to such acts would mean destruction of life for the Church. Although others may say that life is coming to an end when dying, We Christians have a duty and that is to be stewards of life. 

            On the other hand, opposing views claim that mercy killing is "death with dignity" for it is a private matter and everyone has the right to decide how they should die. It can quickly and humanely end a patient’s suffering, allowing them to die with respect for themselves. Also, in the case of the patient’s loved ones, Euthanasia can help shorten the grief and suffering felt by the family, thus having nothing to worry about in the coming days. This may be true, however the patient’s sense of honor would be degraded even more if he/she gives in to Euthanasia for it destroys our very own being, and that includes our worth. A patient may not be able to make a rational decision. For example, a patient may have said they want euthanasia when they were nowhere near death; however, when faced with death they may change their mind but be incapable of telling anyone. “Death with dignity” can no longer be applied in this situation.

         
        It is true that keeping people alive costs a lot of money, which could be used to save other people's lives. Nevertheless, in our time today, there is a vast knowledge of science that can most assuredly offer alternatives that may save the patient. They are called Analgesic and they include morphine, acetaminophen (paracetamol), salicylates and others. They help lessen the pain felt by the patient, not speed up the death. These medicines can be used to save one life along with others.

            A short life may not be all good, but making it shorter would probably cause us to misuse the life and gifts given to us. As far as Euthanasia is concerned in ending pain and suffering, pain and suffering exists all around us. A poor widowed mother suffers as she tries any kind of work just to feed her many children; a teenage girl is in pain and suffering when she is repeatedly molested by her step-father; a middle-aged teacher is suffering as she struggles to battle cancer; a mother is in pain and suffering as she labors her pregnancy. All of these are matters of life and death. Can we just kill them all very quickly to end their pain and suffering? We certainly cannot!